A lady known to us or related to us is known for conducting her wards' weddings quite extravagantly. Agreed that the wedding was meticulously planned and executed well but it created a big hole in her retired husband's pocket. Poor guy, how hard he would have toiled to save for the rainy day but his better-half spent it just like that! Whooshhhhhhhhhh!!! As for the wedding, what it gained in splendour it lacked in hospitality. The hospitality took a beating big time.
We have been planning a sorta thematic bday celebrations or ayushomam for lolly-polly. First we decided to have it at home but accomodating 120 guests is a big challenge. We have accomodated 80 guests in the past but 120 seemed to be a higher margin. So when I began the hunt for the venue, tough luck continued to follow me. The mini-halls were booked or demanded astronomical sums like Rs. 30K for a 2 hour function. With affortability not being a question, we decided not to yield to this kinda looting. We thought we could spend the money on poor feeding/udhavum karangal. By god's grace, we found a mantap which is sorta a mini hall which can accomodate around 200 people. We went ahead and booked it.
When we called up the lady to get some contact no, she had the audacity to ask my MIL "Why did you book a small hall? Why did you not go for a bigger mantap? You have lotsa money right? Why go for a mini-hall?". My MIL, the super-polite she is(I wish she rubs on that to me) overlooked her words and minced matters saying..."Accessibility is good, moreover it's a divya kshetram(holy place)". But this lady continued and blew the trumpet as to how she conducted the weddings and how she would conduct her grandchild's bday celebrations.
Had she posed the question to yours truly, I am sure I would have had the tenacity to say "We dont want to flaunt our opulence by conducting lavish weddings/functions as we feel that it's not the only way to show it." Unfortunately I was not at this end of the receiver. I just mumbled the words to myself and now ofcourse putting it down on pen err keyboard.
Agreed how you conduct the wedding is eachone's preference but people don't realise that they should not insist their choice/preference on others. What say you?
This post might be a lil awkward but I wanted to give my feelings a vent.
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